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2017 Can Bite Me

01.20.2017

I had this in-depth post planned for this month, but January has not been great for the family. We lost my grandmother on January 4 following a long battle with dementia, my mom has been in the hospital off and on (mostly on, as she is now) since before Christmas, and my oldest daughter (the […]

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I’m Coming Out

11.08.2013
Why I'm Not Walking on Eggshells Anymore

I have a thing, in life, to be real. That may be ridiculously amusing or crushingly sad or even desperately terrifying–but it’s real. I’ve learned that being fake to please the people around me makes me miserable. So, I’m private, but I’m the real me.

Unfortunately, as I mentioned, I became worried about being really me on this blog. I’m not an easy person. I’m socially awkward, for one. I have an odd sense of humor that, hopefully, seems snarky and clever in my writing but can be a little off-putting in real life. And I have opinions. Strong ones.

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So…

01.18.2013

I’m watching Political Animals right now (because I always choose the show that is or will be cancelled–although I guess that was a miniseries and not the same thing at all) and reading Anne Rice. And making my way back here. I’ve got some ideas about what I want to do here and and what […]

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Anti-Bullying Month: I Remember

10.10.2012
You are awesome.

So, it’s anti-bullying month and today is Unity Day, according to the National Bullying Prevention Center. This is an issue I feel strongly about, so I’m blogging today to share my experiences. I don’t specifically remember being bullied in school. I know I had low self-esteem, and I was overweight, and if people were mean […]

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Slight Hiatus

04.30.2011

I started a new job this week and I’ve been crazy busy.  I will return in the next few days with your regularly not-particularly-scheduled wisdom and divaness!

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Party Like You’re 14

04.06.2011

  And, say, it was your birthday.  And you wanted some cool things to do with your friends.  And not cool in the way your mom, who has the best of intentions, might think of as cool, but cool. Because my wonderful daughter is going to be 14 on Friday.  She’s having a sleepover and […]

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Reading, Breathing, Sleeping. The Necessities.

02.21.2011
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Yes, I write romance, and I’d never (until this past December) read a Jane Austen book. Any. At all. Yes, I was ashamed of this deficit. When I was growing up, I didn’t get new books. I had trips to the library, occasionally, which I reserved for horror and mystery. I don’t know why. Well, […]

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Polished Toenails = The Good Life

04.06.2010
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I’ve got this weird idea, maybe more of a subscribed belief: painted toenails equate to a flourishing, happy, carefree life.  I realize it’s not really rational.  How do you rationalize something so trivial as an indicator of something so crucial? You could look at Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs, perhaps, and assume that all those lower […]

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Organize much?

02.10.2010

But online organization doesn’t have to be complicated. There are many tools for organizing all our stuff, of course, but one of the simplest is the wiki. We’re all familiar with wikis, of course — Wikipedia being the most famous example, but many other useful wikis abound on the Internet. But one of the most […]

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The Gift

01.06.2010

Find out the reason that commands you to write; see whether it has spread its roots into the very depth of your heart; confess to yourself you would have to die if you were forbidden to write. ~Rainer Maria Rilke via Quotegarden.com (which  no longer seems to exist). Writing makes me crazy. There are days […]

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